Body shaming…an act of bullying that most of us constantly experience. This kind of bullying affects our mental health as both children and adults. Mental health goes hand in hand with loving your physique and personality. Society teaches us to hate our bodies and live up to their expectations,sacrificing our mental health in the process. A lot of people,especially the social media community, don’t understand the concept of body shaming and the impact it might have on a person’s life. Sometimes body shaming someone pushes them to actually move at a faster pace,and in most cases it breaks people into a thousand pieces. So since words tend to push us to be great sometimes,does it mean that it’s okay to emotionally bully someone with the aim of “building” them? No! Of course not.
BODY SHAMING MEN IS JUST AS WRONG AS IT IS TO BODY SHAME GIRLS.
Society just has these double standards where they say one thing on social media and behave in a completely different manner. And by society I’m referring to both men and women. Body shaming goes both ways,it affects both genders. A lot of women tend to body shame men and find it funny. But when the tables are turned,it’s war. I’m not saying that it’s okay for men to body shame women,but what I am saying is that we need to stop being hypocrites. I honestly don’t understand how women think it’s okay to body shame men,but so wrong for men to do the same thing. I just wish that every time people talk about body shaming,they wouldn’t refer to girls only,because society has actually normalised body shaming men all the time. If you’re against body shaming,then you should stand for body shaming against both genders.
DO YOU REALLY HATE YOUR BODY?
Like I said before,society teaches us to hate our bodies. Meaning that sometimes we don’t really hate our bodies,we hate the fact that our bodies don’t fit in to the beauty standards of society. What I’m saying might be confusing to others,but hating your body simply because you just don’t like it and hating your body because someone said that they don’t like it are two completely different things.
As a teenager I did and still do experience body shaming in a sugar coated manner. When i was 14 years old I gained weight due to unsure reasons. At that time I didn’t even realise it nor had much interest in how my body looked,I was just okay with the way I was. Everything changed when I went through a rough patch the following year. The year which I started experiencing depression. Due to my depression I went through a drastic change of weight loss. I became so skinny that people would eventually make fun of me and make different assumptions about the reason behind my weight loss. Most times people would remind me of my previous “beautiful” body and it would hurt me so much because they’d say all these things without knowing that I have no control over what I’m going through. Sometimes I would resort to force feeding myself with the aim of gaining some weight,and as usual I would fail to eat.
This year I began to gain weight even though I was still going through depression. Why and how? I honestly don’t know. And as expected people “compliment” me and some tell me that I should gain just a little bit more. People constantly comment on my weight gain and I know that most of them aren’t talking from a negative view,but it makes me so uncomfortable because I have to deal with the pressure of maintaining this body weight by making sure that I don’t experience another weight loss. There are times when I just have a mental breakdown for like a week and in that week I force feed myself sometimes because I’m afraid of losing weight again. I came to realise that i never hated my body,I only hated the fact that people think that I would look much better if I had a different physique,since i have such a small body. I don’t really have a problem with my physique,vile people do.
YOUR BODY DOESN’T DETERMINE YOUR WORTH AS A WOMAN/GIRL.
It’s really sad to see how we girls are being constantly pressurised into having the perfect bodies. In a white society the perfect body is the skinny type. Not being skinny is not considered as a beauty standard. In a black society it is the opposite,being skinny is not considered as the perfect body. The perfect body in my black society is the thick,curvaceous type with a big butt. If you’re not thick and butt given like me,you have to deal with the pressure of being told that you’d look more beautiful if you had this kind of body. These two races have different beauty standards,but the one body type that is equally not acceptable by them and every other race is being fat.
We’re all aware of our weights right? Why bother telling someone that they’re fat even though they’re very much aware that they are? If someone is fat and they want to lose weight they’ll do it willingly and at their own pace. There are women who are fat and they love their bodies as they are. Stop sugar coating body shaming as health issue concerns. As girls we should stop our hypocritical acts of protecting plus size women only. Social media is all about speaking up against body shaming until it comes to skinny girls. Being skinny doesn’t mean that you starve yourself,it simply means that you just choose to nourish your body differently or you’re just naturally skinny. Another thing that we should stop doing as females is to stop body shaming other females who do plastic surgery. I personally don’t prefer to do plastic surgery when I grow up,but that doesn’t mean I judge those who prefer it. Doing plastic surgery doesn’t automatically mean that you don’t have confidence,it simply means that you just want to look a certain way. Every girl should feel comfortable in their body without being tormented with words.
TO THE GIRLS…
It’s okay to be fat,it’s also okay to be skinny.
It’s okay to be curvaceous,it’s also okay to be slim.
It’s okay to be tall,it’s also okay to be short.
It’s okay to have a small butt,it’s also okay to have a big butt.
It’s okay to have a slim flat stomach,it’s also okay to have a stomach that’s not flat. It’s okay to have big breasts,it’s also okay to have small breasts.
TO THE MEN…
It’s okay to be short,it’s also okay to be tall.
It’s okay to have a belly,it’s also okay to have six packs
It’s okay to be dark skinned,it’s also okay to be light skinned. It’s okay to be muscular,it’s also okay to be have average muscles or none at all.
If you want to change something about your body,do it because you want to do it,not because people want you to do it. Stop body shaming. Let’s be better.♡